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The Liar in Your Life

The Way to Truthful Relationships

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1 of 1 copy available

Deception is a central feature of everyday life. We hear it not only from Presidents ("I did not have sexual relations with that woman"), the dean of admissions of M.I.T. ("I have three college degrees"), or the sleazy sales associate at the local car dealership ("This SUV gets terrific mileage!"); we also hear lies from the people we meet and interact with on a daily basis, including our family, friends, colleagues-and yes, the woman ahead of us in line at Starbucks.

The issue confronting us is not whether people lie to us-they do-but how much and why. Just as importantly, we need to consider why we're so prone to believe the deception we hear from others, as well as the lies we tell ourselves. Finally, we need to explore why we view certain lies as harmless, while rejecting others as manipulative and shameful. Robert Feldman has unique knowledge of how deeply dishonesty is engrained in our everyday lives and broader culture.

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    • AudioFile Magazine
      A psychology professor with a knack for storytelling shows how pervasive lying is and what to do about it. An authority on deception, he draws on the latest research and expert opinion and applies enough of his intellectual pizzazz to make this massive body of knowledge come across as enjoyable and accessible. Bob Walter adds his own pizzazz in his narration. With an approach that is arresting but not alarming, you can feel the drama as he delivers examples of lies that occur in personal, government, media, and business arenas. His vocal centeredness helps him engage with the book's exposé approach and make listeners pay attention without making them feel manipulated. T.W. Winner of AudioFile Earphones Award (c) AudioFile 2009, Portland, Maine
    • Library Journal

      May 1, 2009
      Feldman (psychology, Univ. of Massachusetts, Amherst; "Understanding Psychology") reviews studies of lying that he and others have conducted, demonstrating that deception is deeply ingrained in social interaction. Writing for the lay reader and using examples from recent news, he explores, e.g., how learning to deceive is part of a child's socialization, with implications for cognitive and social development. He also shows that lying is essential for self-preservation yet often leads to self-deception. Frequently restating previous findings, Feldman traces the evolution of lying and its consequences for personal and workplace relationships. Trying to be objective and dispassionate, he does not offer formulas or exercises for becoming more honest. Feldman admits that it would be difficult to live in a society where the truth was always told. His final advice is to compromise: accept that lying is universal, become comfortable with uncertainty, and verify information before making conclusions; be aware of your tendency to lie and commit to be more honest. Recommended for self-help fans.Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L.

      Copyright 2009 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

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